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Hello! It has definitely been a while since I’ve posted on here but I am glad to be back and hoping to post as often as I can or really as often as I have an idea. This specific topic idea came to me as I sat in the nap room at work earlier this week. As I watched 9 one year olds sleep for an hour and a half I had a lot of time to think in that rocking chair. My main point of thought was surrounding anxiety. Anxiety is something I personally have struggled with I think honestly since I was born. I was always worried about everything, constantly nervous about being late to things though my family was always on time if not early, suffering panic attacks before school as early as 1st grade, it has something that has always affected me. I wasn’t officially diagnosed and treated for anxiety until I was in middle school but even with that I still have days where I feel like I might not get through something because I am so anxious. With that though, specifically in the last year I have come a very long way and today I want to share 5 of my tips for managing my anxiety.
*If you are experiencing severe anxiety please seek professional help. These are just tricks I use for managing my anxiety but I am obviously not a professional and can’t guarantee improvement! Please talk to a trusted adult or professional if you need help*
Okay so let’s get into it!!
- Remove Yourself
My “remove yourself” I mean take yourself away from whatever you’re doing in that moment if it’s possible. This can be going for a quick walk just to get some fresh air and get out of the house or going over to a friends house. I find that sometimes sitting just in my apartment while I’m feeling anxious often just allows it to sit and brew, getting out of the house really helps me. If you’re in class and you start feeling super anxious, ask to go to the bathroom or get a drink of water. Removing yourself even for a second from class can give you a minute or two to take a deep breath once you are removed from the stimulation of the classroom. Obviously you should then return to whatever you are supposed to be doing but taking these little breaks and extracting yourself can be very beneficial.
2. Essential Oil Roll On
Okay so this one is my new obsession. I got this roll on in a little relaxation kit from Target for Christmas this year. If you know me, you know that I can’t smell and I’ve always wondered if essential oils have the same benefits for me since the scent itself wouldn’t affect me. This might be a placebo at least for me since I can’t smell the roll on but I’ll put this on before I go to sleep and any time I feel anxious. I do my wrists and my temples and sometimes right under my nose and I INSTANTLY feel calm. Like I said this 100% could be a placebo but I’ve had my friends try it too and I really think it works. If you’re looking to try something new and you’re interested in getting into essential oils, this is a great start especially because it doesn’t require a diffuser or any other devices! Give this a try and let me know if it works for you!
This one is more obvious but I use this all the time when I can’t seem to get myself to calm down. This can range from just breathing exercises like square breathing which is inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, relax for 4 seconds. Or my personal favorite. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, exhale for 8 seconds. You can do this by yourself or with an app. My personal favorite is Oak which I use before bed if I’m feeling anxious or sometimes on the bus on my way to work or class. It might take some practice and I know I’m not always successful at clearing my head enough to completely relax but overall there are a ton of benefits to meditation and just taking time to focus on breathing is something I always find to be very beneficial.
4. Find a Distraction
Now this is similar to removing yourself but doesn’t have to require that. Finding something that can temporarily take your mind off of what is making you anxious can be super helpful in managing your anxiety. Examples of this for me include, watching a show that makes me feel calm and happy like Friends or Wizards of Waverly Place (kinda stupid, I know), watching a movie, taking a shower and listening to a podcast, going on a run, talking with my friends, journaling, FaceTiming my parents, etc. These are all things that I do in moderation honestly, whether or not I’m feeling anxious but I do notice that I try and distract myself more often when my anxiety is really bad but it does help to take my mind off of what’s causing me to be anxious and sometimes completely eliminates the stress I’m feeling especially when I am feeling super anxious but I can’t seem to figure out why. Find what takes your mind away for a little bit and implement little moments into your day where you can escape whatever anxious feelings you may have.
5. Change Your Mindset
This last tip is 100% the most important, the hardest to implement and the one that took me the longest to figure out so I am sharing it with you in hopes of helping even one person grab ahold of their anxiety. That’s what this is, change your mindset surrounding you anxiety. Don’t let it be something that controls you, take control of it. The best way I know how to do this is with a little trick that took me 20 whole years to learn. This trick is not allowing myself to feel anxious about something until 5 minutes before it happens. This only works obviously with the anxiety I have surrounding new places and experiences and more controlled events that I am nervous for. For example, if I have an interview coming up that causes me to have a panic attack every time I think about it, I tell myself and remind myself that there is nothing I can do to prepare past this point and the worst part is going to be walking into that interview. I can’t walk into the interview obviously until the day of the interview so there is no point in stressing out about it until right before. Making this realization and implementing this has changed my life and really impacted the hold that my anxiety used to have over me. I’ve explained this trick to friends and now they hold me accountable and I hold them accountable. The other day I was starting to stress and get very anxious about an event I was putting on. Everything for the event was set up and ready, I was just anxious about the event itself. My friend said “Hey, 5 minutes, just like you tell me” and I was immediately brought back into that mindset and felt calm. This mindset about controlling what you can at the time you can is something I still don’t have perfected and clearly still need reminders about but if you can achieve that control over your anxiety, I promise, you will not only feel so powerful but you will also experience less anxiety and be able to live a more peaceful life.
I really hope you take these tips into consideration or that any of these things help at least one person reading this. Please let me know if any of these things help you out!
Thanks for reading!